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Why Don't We Have Sex?

The Bible is full of verses that remind us that husbands and wives should have a lot of sex. We also are reminded that we should not deny each other intimacy. So, why then are couples not having sex? Right off the bat, I can think of a few reasons:

  1. There could be one or both spouses feeling uncomfortable about their bodies, especially as we age.

  2. One or both spouses may be stressed. Working long hours and overexerting ourselves doing chores and running errands can wear you down, and by the time it's bedtime, couples prepare for bed but pass out.

  3. It may be time to take the love life up a level, but one partner may not be ready.

  4. Something could have happened during the relationship where one or both spouses' trust was broken.

You may disagree on one or more essential perspectives, and you have become withdrawn from each other intimately. So, what if you are married and are not having as much or any sex at all? What should you do?

Couples should acknowledge and talk about the fact that there is concern about the lack of intimacy in the marriage. Try to figure out a way to bring back the spark you once had in the bedroom. Express to each other what you want and need from each other. Also, put out there what you don't want. We often get used to the way things are, but that doesn't necessarily mean we like or want it anymore. Plan a romantic evening, purchase some new lingerie (I love Frederick's of Hollywood), and maybe even consider some sex toys. Adam & Eve have some creative items for couples.

Suppose you have a lot of or enough sex in your marriage, then good for you, and keep up the good work. But if you need some help in this department, open up your mind to receive some good advice and hopeful suggestions to spice up your love life. Get busy and mess up those bedsheets. I have researched and found some terrific articles that are sure to help you if you want help. Also, find out which generation is having the least sex in 2021.

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