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Managing Stress

In hopes of managing the stressors of my life, I enrolled in a health course this semester aptly titled "Stress Management." I am now in the third week; however, I have learned new ways to manage stress, its effect on our body and mind, and how we should be responding to the various stressors we face. In addition, what types of consequences will we have if we don't react or manage our stress effectively.


As a mother, I am faced with multiple stressors a day. It seems as if no matter how thorough a calendar or schedule I have, things are still not going as planned. I realize that I have been allowing the actions of others to stress me out ALOT! For example, my daughter in the morning when it's time to get ready for school. Whether she goes to bed at 9:00 or midnight, she wakes up on time but then takes forever to get ready. There have been more than one morning where I wanted to leave her home and let her miss school to prove a point. But what point would that be? Not to mention that my son doesn't want me to leave her, even though she makes them tardy almost daily.

In this situation, the stressor is that we're running late every morning, which means I have to drive like a bat out of hell to get them there before homeroom period. Yet, this does not seem to bother her. Why? The response from me is usually a firm "Come on, it's time to go!" OR "We're leaving NOW!" Her answer is always, "I'm coming... I had to get (this or that)." Then here she comes, running down the hall, book bag barely on her back, shoes and accessories in her hand, and aimlessly looking around the kitchen for her morning snack and drink before running out to the car. Although we are both experiencing this stressful condition, we both feel completely different about it (Chen, 2017). Every day I feel so bad for my son because it's like he is quietly caught in the crossfire


We should be mindful of our thoughts, emotions, and how we behave, but when you are stressed it can be hard to do. For some reason, I still allow things that the children do trigger me to a point where I'm either screaming out loud or silently in a pillow. I asked if anything was going on at school that perhaps was making her not want to go, and there was not. I also asked what we can do to help you get better organized and manage your time better. But then I realized that this is just a tweenager trying to see how far she can go with her mom. So, instead of me displaying angry or aggressive behavior, I will wake her up 15 minutes earlier every morning so she will have that extra time to brush her teeth. And she will go to bed 15 minutes earlier to get more sleep. If that doesn't work, then we will go to 30-minute intervals. If I have to, I will wake her up at 5 a.m. to ensure they get to school by 7:50. Ridiculous!


Situations like this create tension in the house, but I have told my husband that we will not allow these silly antics from the kids to cause friction between us. Because if you know like I do, children will try to pit mom and dad against each other to get their way. And guess who the bad guy is? Mommy. Let's not forget that while I am dealing with all this STUFF, I'm still experiencing sweaty nights and hot flashy days. But I am determined to find a way to make this menopause work. Thanks to a few diet changes, I have lost a few more pounds, and for the past two nights, my Fitbit recorded that I slept more than 7 hours both nights. Yippee... Also, I was able to book two Pilates classes within the past ten days. I plan to continue drinking my 64 ounces of water each day and get in at least 30 minutes of exercise.


For my birthday, a treat to a deep tissue massage. Now that is a stress reliever. Take care of yourselves, and as always, Like-Share-Comment. I would love to hear how some of you manage your stress.


Reference

Chen, D. D., (2017). Stress management and prevention Applications to daily life (3rd ed.). Routledge.



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I found music can help with some of those stressful moments. Usually a song that has some meaning to you that takes you back to a time when you were happy or having a great time with Family or Friends.

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